Preparing for a big year
Senior Year. It’s a big year. The year will fly by, so recognize that this may be your last chance to make memories with your senior. Take the time to do special things together and capture the memories to preserve them for the future.

This section speaks directly to the unique issues and pitfalls of parenting a senior through this year of transition. It contains practical advice on a variety of key parenting topics.

Start with these general tips…

Hoping you taught them all the right stuff
By the time your student reaches their senior year in high school, you have taught them many important skills and values. If you are worried that you may have missed something, talk to them. Let them know how you feel. Don’t shy away from sensitive issues. Experts say that kids who talk to their parents about difficult subjects are much more likely to avoid trouble. They need to hear from you.

For example:

• Do they respect all people despite physical and cultural difference?
• Do they appreciate the value of staying in touch with friends?
• Do they understand the importance of their civic duties and philanthropic efforts?
• Can they deal with difficult people?
• Are they aware of the dangers of tobacco, alcohol and drugs? Revisit the designated driver concept.
• Are they aware of the dangers of sexually transmitted diseases? Do they realize that these diseases cause life-long health problems?
• Do they have respect for members of the opposite sex?
• Are they aware of the dangers associated with body piercing, tattoos and other invasive procedures?

At this stage in their life, peers are the number one influence. Students may become secretive and avoid discussing problems. They may think you are just lecturing them, but you will feel better knowing you made your beliefs clear.

Helping them stay safe…
We recommend that you offer your senior a “get out of trouble free card”. Tell them that if they ever find themselves getting into a bad situation, they should call you and you will come and get them. No questions asked.

“My daughter and I have a secret code that we established when she started going out with her friends. If she calls me and asks me “Did you walk the dog yet?” I know she is uncomfortable and wants me to come and pick her up. This code allows her to avoid the peer pressure of “calling mom”. Regardless of the situation, I go and get her right away. I try to avoid asking too many questions. ”
Ellen in Austin, Texas